I feel like many times we can shy away from starting something because we want to get everything juuust right. We focus so much on getting the little details perfect that sometimes we get so discouraged…and we don’t start at all.
It can be the start of something simple–like starting a painting or learning a new skill…to something bigger like starting a new career, relationship or family.
We’re waiting for the right time, we tell ourselves.
But like Tim Ferriss says in the The 4-Hour Workweek, “For all of the most important things, the timing always sucks. Waiting for a good time to quit your job? The stars will never align and the traffic lights of life will never all be green at the same time. The universe doesn’t conspire against you, but it doesn’t go out of its way to line up the pins either. Conditions are never perfect. ‘Someday’ is a disease that will take your dreams to the grave with you. Pro and con lists are just as bad. If it’s important to you and you want to do it ‘eventually,’ just do it and correct course along the way.”
Also, the start of something may seem quite scary. The fear of failing can really just eat us up.
It’s also the fear of not knowing where it will all go…or even how long the feeling of excitement will last. Haven’t we all had that fear? The fear of putting so much effort into something we care about…and having to watch everything crash and burn?
And fearing that we won’t have the will to get back up again?
We know the typical advice on fighting fear…surround ourselves with the right people, keep in mind what our goals are, know that the world is not going to end if things don’t work out…
But knowing those things doesn’t make it any less scary. And no matter how many encouraging people we surround ourselves with, sometimes one nagging or discouraging person can just drag us down–and oftentimes that person is our very own self.
It’s that voice inside that won’t shut up, that we can’t run away from, that tells us we’re not good enough.
I don’t have the answer to eliminate fear or ignore that voice inside our head that can often discourage us. I think that a little dose of fear is normal, and the voices inside our heads can sometimes keep us from danger.
But we just can’t let them overcome our will to move forward, to grow.
Two things I’ve kept in mind from reading the The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin:
“The days are long but the years are short.”
“What you do every day matters more than what you do once in a while.”
For me, I think doing a little something every day is a start to getting started.
So I’m going to try to create something new every day. I was inspired by Noah Scalin’s art project where he decided to make a skull a day for a year (it’s really cool, check out the link). I recently picked up his book, 365: A Daily Creativity Journal that inspires people to be creative every day (we can make our own rules!).
Join me if you are interested! There are tons of people who’ve done this. Check it out.
Let’s get started.
*The little doodle/creation today was made with pieces of some old receipts.